I-Thou card game is a psychological game designed by a Gestalt therapist to deepen relationships with others and expand consciousness.
- I-Thou game is meant to be played with others to tighten bonds.
- It can be used individually to get to know and develop oneself better.
- It can be played with a group of friends.
- It can be taken on a date (not necessarily the first one…) to build a unique relationship.
- It allows you to see your partner in a new light even after a 30-year relationship.
- It can also be used in group work (workshops, training courses, etc.)
I-Thou is a concept of relationships created by Martin Buber. According to Buber, the basis of a dialogue is a meeting during which partners treat each other subjectively, are equal to each other, respect their differences and, above all, meet with no other aim than to get together and discover their true authenticity.
The game contains 100 questions. Fifty of these are mostly open-ended general questions about personal life, experiences and relationships, and the other 50 relate to relationships questions concerning emotions, beliefs and interpersonal relationships between players.
Theory behind the sample card (from the author)
I like this question. If one were to go back to theory, it would refer to what creative adjustment was expected by those important to us in the field (e.g., family). And that’s probably what first comes to mind in response when we hear it.
On the other hand, this question also applies to the cultural field. In our cultural field, girls tend to be praised for how cute and sweet they are (how they make others feel comfortable with them), how polite they are (obedient, meeting expectations), how they take care of others (how they sacrifice themselves), and in households where success is important: what accomplishments they have. In the case of boys, „bravery” may be praised more often (retaining emotions considered „unmanly” by the culture), initiative and energy (more „do” than „be”), taking responsibility (controlling), success (in competition), etc. These are of course my associations related to our cultural field.
I take that perspective sometimes and watch how I am with it: „praise” shows what role we were raised to play. To sacrifice. To mediate and reconcile. To achieve success. To be pretty. To perform. To be responsible (to fulfill age-mismatched responsibilities).
Praise builds our resources and sometimes cements rigidities. Together with reprimands („Don’t be like that”), they draw a map of conditional acceptance and shame (so if I don’t want to experience shame, I won’t push the boundaries of who I’m „allowed” to be).